my wife doesn't care when i'm sick
If your wife grew up like I did you are never going to be happy with the level of care she gives you, because its completely foreign to her. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. Never underestimate the callousness of the narcissist. It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. If this happens once, it may not be a huge cause for concern. Yes, I chose someone who couldn't love,or who chose NOT to love. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. Born with a congenital heart condition, she survived two open heart surgeries before age 4. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. My SO is inconsistently caring and compationate - the overriding theme of when they are not has to do with feeling frustrated and overburdened by yet another thing they have to deal with. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. I will not beg for attention as I did in the past, crying because I was lonely. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Just gotta get used to it! I shouldn't have to and I take very good care of myself after 27 years and a complete role reversal. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. He didn't. Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same His answer,"Something you enjoy. Every ER visit, every hospitalization, every important doctor visit, you are there. They will always be more important than you. It wont solvefor the dishonesty (and just found a new credit card). Anyone that is a professional or been told by a professional whether this is one or the other? Instead he walked around the car, got in the back seat and proceeded to yell at me for the next 15 min about how "he does not have time for this" & "why did I call him(my husband) and not my sister or my niece". That is my story for anyone that can benefit from it. Obviously. Maybe talking to her would bring it to her attention. Of course. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. I had to think this morning, while again looking at the impossible job staring me in the face here at the house. WebNow I'm going to get sick! It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. We had been friends for years and talked here and there. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. I often try to put myself in his shoes and think "God I am so happy I am not like that". The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. You cant expect people to stop. yuck. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". WebMy girlfriend thinks I don't care for her but I do she's been sick for the past two days and I been trying to be nice by doing mostly everything for her I have to walk her to the bathroom give her medicine wash dishes pick up her groceries try to cook even though I'm not that good at it I have to get the bathtub filled for her I try my best to I will not call for a man when I am sick. I really appreciate your insight. I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. Make him whatever type of soup he wants, bring him medicine, rub his head etc. H, has two basic emotions, FEAR and ANGER. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. Some people have zero bedside manner. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. But we are talking about a lack of engagement here, right? Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? Unreal. Uggh. I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Pleasure. She will come in and ask me if I need/want anything and see how I am doing. Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. And what Ive learned is, thats exactly why Im with you. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. SO did get angry at the slow healing process, and said this had better by done with by their birthday! She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. I decided then to leave. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! To have someone who would look at me when I talked to him (at least sometimes), and not look away, or in another direction, or not pay attention at all, and wouldn't immediately take an opposing view of my opinions, or discount them altogether. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. So a few months ago I rang him to say my asthma was bad and I needed to get to Why? By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. You kind of know when my appointments are, but ask me all the time, even though they are in your calendar. Don't get me wrong. My husband would blame me for ruining his life. Don't let the ADHD make you feel any worse you need the peace and quiet to recover gently. And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? | Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. Bring her gatorade, soup, crackers, etc. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. So I choose to let it go and know he is limited by the ADHD and other disorders that are undiagnosed until he can be humble and let go of his pride, and that right there is bigger than any disorder one can have. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. Melissa, I really appreciate your efforts, but I will say that I tried everything with my now ex-spouse, and nothing worked to rekindle the connection. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. ADHD, doesn't give you the liberty of that most of the time. I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. Ihave neglected you. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! Alright. Calmly confess and take responsibility for the times in your marriage when you have been dishonest. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. So I had been barfing all day long.almost going to the hostpital and was sicker than I had ever been before or after except with Appendicitis as an adult. The grass wasn't greener on the other side but my grass would probably never be any better so there needed to be changes on my side. Well, then, I say. yikes!! When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. All I can say is wow. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. To us I should say. I told her that as long as I took it slow, I would be OK. My husband didn't offer to help, he just stood there, and I could hear the wheels turning in his head. Germaphobe type thing? He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. Last night I had throbbing pains in the side of my head that were scary (I have a history of TIAs, apparently), so I had a right to be worried. Being intrusive and obnoxious so my partner would pay attention to me. Many years ago I had appendicitis. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. He is so sick and depressed. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. This is a personality disorder. Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. Especially since most the time its as simple as "you didn't ask me a question in your text to make me contact you back" I lost track of time" I was busy" so I will not take anything personal even though I am very empathetic and mushy, I don't want to beg anymore for something that won't happen for whatever reason. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. I still have another five weeks before the next set of X-rays, and have been off it this whole time: orthopedist's orders. He had the flu last year and I took care of him. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally He hates the snow. No excuse on either side. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. I am the best thing he has ever had. I am a romantic to this day. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. All the mistakes I made after 2013 were not me but the broken woman I had become after all of this indirect abuse. Press J to jump to the feed. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. I understand what you mean. Some people are very loving and caring, others are pretty avoidant. They were on their lunch break at the time, and went back to work - taking the automatic transmission car and leaving me with the manual. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. Does she get sick often?Wondering how sympathy for each other is usually when one of you is sick. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. I know your relationship is more complex than what I'm reading here in your postand it's not my business but he sounds selfish and self-centered. We all experience them. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! His brother was paranoid-schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18 and died a few years ago from drug addiction. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. If you read anything about attachment theory, the bottom line is that if you had a parent who didn't attach to you, or rejected you, then you mostly likely develop an unhealthy attachment style you use with others. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. I am flaberggasted. "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! Its good to have a healthy balance. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b But you dont care. ).the instant I said I didn't feel wellshe put her hand on my forehead.went..OMGgot a thermometer and took my temperature.as one might think one should do in a situation like that? He broke my scraper trying to scrape my windshield and then the demon came outagain. "The unexpected" threatens their sense of fragile balance. Do you notice periods of lucidity between the bouts of rage? I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. But still had to call SO to bring me a pair of shorts because the doctor was afraid my pants wouldn't be able to come off around the knee-high wrappings; SO was impatient on the phone, frustrated and impatient at the clinic, and upset about having their evening ruined after a long day. Thanks. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. When my husband found out he was angry and said " I can't justify spending that kind of money. How would you like her to act? etc. Nothing builds or sticks over the years. Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. He even broke the kitchen sink to where it only puts out hot water. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. Pain beyond belief. I said no. Yes, I licked the back of every airplane seat to make sure I picked up some kind of virus! Wanting to CONNECT? The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. Like, my sympathy well was pretty shallow when I had 2 sick kids and a sick husband. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. And that doctor he threatened to sue likely saved his son's life. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). Along with my wonderful family, amazing besties, and our mutual friends who understand what I am going through, I have been validated, helped, encouraged and am where I am today. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. Otherwise I think you need to stop acting like a child when sick. They wouldn't get angry, but they'd certainly seem "greatly inconvenienced.". What? Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. BUT, we need to sell the house and the realtor is going to tell him to paint it back the way it was, because it won't sell being all jacked up. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. So, does he want me around because he's afraid he's dying? I dont expect to be doted on and coddled when Im sick, but some level of Got plenty of time to think about it. He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. (We do imitate our parents). Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. I like the don't be upset if I pull a you on you comment. Lets look at the options: 1. (again, fear). WebSign #7: He doesnt ask you any questions about you and doesnt seem interested in who you are. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. That's just Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! You carry on, steady through the storm. Anyway, I digress. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. You should probably be checked out by a doctor. I can understand mentioning it to him and maybe even asking, but begging?? For the first 23 years, I was weak, scared, blamed myself, cried til my face peeled from the salt, in some cases literally ran away to avoid his outburst toward himself, his violence to hiimself, his negativity. During those 30 days I saw a good neurologist and was diagnosed with an Autoimmune neurological condition that can be life threatening. We don't have kids yet. Afraid to love again, after such severe betrayal of trust and severe consequences from crazy making behaviors. I guess its just a character flaw of his! Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:55. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. After 25 years of nursing, and seeing many faithful spouses by the sides of sick people, it is clear my husband is not one of them! Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. Submitted by PoisonIvy on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 15:38. Jan 14, 2018. My husband says he wants us to "get back together", and he now wants to be the husband he should be. Would she normally kiss you before going to work? Now I see, and now I can and will be your Captain Marvel. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? Impatient to a fault, hates to wait, hates to wait his turn. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. My wife wants to be left alone, and I mean ALONE. My husband never realized what was happening right under his nose. If I'm sick or hurt (e.g. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. I do believe he loves me. Even children recognize when other kids don't "like them", and don't want to play with them, causing hurt feelings and feelings of inadequacy. I think the explanation for her behavior lies in a few traits from her background: Latina with history of macho men in her past. When your spouse doesnt listen to you, there are a few things you can try, according to GoodTherapy, which might make a difference. And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. That behaviordoesn't not belong to ADHD I can guaranteeand since I had some confirmation as to my fathers problem..I can say that in his casethat was NPD! I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. His answer was absolutely not. Are you sick often? He didn't take me to the hospital, just put me back to bed. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. Emotionless. I felt like I was dying, inside and out. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. When you marry, the two working, bill-paying adults in the house should set the important stuff togetherlike budget, schedule, vacations, house rules. I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet.). This is a never ending cycle that doesn't ever stop. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. Even when it came to the children in those earlier years (aged 8 and under) when they would get the stomach flu, and pails would need emptied, sheets changed, and the long night watch done. (regardless of what his mother did to him when he was small) Somewhere insidehimself, he knew he was holding back, and still did it, to his own detriment and the detriment of our marriage and love. Are you 5 years old? But I truly think my husband is being a pussy sometimes. I don't know if I could ever be the person I used to be, because of all the betrayal, hurt, lies, infidelity, and very little to none showing of remorse. 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